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When traditional male and female roles are filled, do men run, hide, or recalibrate?

 

I would be foolish to think money has little importance as to how a home will be run. However, I would be more foolish to believe money has more importance than how God has instructed us to run a household. I believe that if my prospective mate and I are to live as God intended, then my role as leader should not change.
Jacky, 29, MD

 

The man’s role should be the head and lead his household even if his wife makes more money or is the “breadwinner”. He should support his spouse with a loving attitude, respecting her position as the breadwinner while he maintains the role of head of house according to God’s plan and biblical principle.
Mason, 37, NC

 

Are you kidding? I love a strong woman, a woman with prestige and more.

I think in the 21st Century, the roles have definitely changed. I personally believe my role in the household would be to hold my house down, financially, emotionally, and physically. Truthfully, nothing has changed in my view as what a man should do, the only thing that would be different, is the role of the woman. Hopefully she will be able to hold me down in times of need, just as I should be able to hold her down. There’s nothing wrong with a woman taking out the trash every now and then (Even though, as the man I am, I would never think that is her job and would do so myself anyway), but there’s also nothing wrong with the man doing the dishes, or fixing dinner for the family.
Marc, 32, MD

 

My role first and foremost as a Christian husband is to make sure that both my wife and I put God first in our lives, besides that I want to continually challenge to grow in faith together and raise our kids with strong Christian values. My “role” is to be a faithful, loving and honest man who is lead by the spirit. If a man has an issue or insecurity about his wife making more money then those issues are within that man.
Euan, 36, NC

 

Do you try to avoid Alpha women while dating?

 

Are you kidding? I love a strong woman, a woman with prestige and more. Those things don’t concern me when it comes to the cause for not being with someone. I have never been the type of man that would get jealous over things like that, and truthfully, it was a turn on to me, to know a woman would be everything she is without me. Secondly, I was never attracted to passive women, I’m attracted to the type of female that would put me in my place when I am out of line, whether it is with her or with something that I am doing in my life. I want a woman that can speak up and be herself. With all that said, it doesn’t mean that I am open to someone disrespectfully doing so though. There are ways to get even your most critical point across in a respectful gesture.
Marc, 32, MD

 

I am a very confident man and have never been intimated by a woman. It’s just not in me, furthermore I don’t label women as Alpha, dominant or anything along those lines. If a woman has the qualities and traits that I would want in my children and has a yearning for fulfillment and a burning desire to please the Lord, it simply is of inconsequence of what kind of woman she is. If she loves the Lord everything else will fall into place.
Euan, 36, NC

 

I did in the past, but that’s because I wasn’t mature enough to handle an “Alpha woman”. Also, I’m a pretty laid back guy, so being with that kind of woman was intimidating. Now, I don’t avoid anyone who may be a potential mate, as long as she’s a Christian of course. She may be an “Alpha woman” or make more money than me, but if she’s following God then both of our roles are clearly defined.
Jacky, 29, MD

 


If such a relationship were to work, in your opinion what must the woman do to ensure that you still feel like the man in the relationship?

 

I think this question has a direct relation to how a man sees and feels about himself. As long as I don’t start watching lifetime and wearing heels I’m good. I know who I am and would never want my wife to have to do anything but be herself. If she has to start doing things to make me feel like a man in the relationship then we are doomed, it’s that simple. In fact, I can’t think of one thing she could do to make me question my masculinity.
Euan, 36, NC

 

Honestly, the only thing she would have to do is be willing to be led. It’s incumbent on me to be the type of man that a woman would be willing to follow. Therefore, it’s really on me to work on being the kind of man God wants me to be and choose a woman who would be willing and excited to follow.
Jacky, 29, MD

 

I don’t know if there is anything anyone can do to make me feel like a man. That security lies inside of me…but if you want to make sure you do not offend that manhood 1) Do not take the board room into the bedroom 2) Have a listening ear with the intent to truly understand and not just get your point across 3) Still be a lady at all times!!!!
Mason, 37, NC

 

 

 

 

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